Saturday 29 October 2016

Madison Missina

Today I'm talking to a legend in the Australian porn industry. She's been voted pornstar of the year for the three years in a row, she's in the Australian Adult Industry Hall of Fame. She is an advocate for he industry and she's here today to give you a better understanding of what makes Madison Missina tick. 
 
JJ: Welcome go Inside the Porn Madison. I'm so happy to have you with us. You're a legend and I've not stopped smiling since you agreed to be here. 

So what got you into the adult industry?

Madison: As a young girl who spent almost all her lunchtimes in the library I was absolutely fascinated with the history of courtesans and geishas. I saw my kind as strong emancipated women who managed to live outside the patriarchy. I loved that we were the first women to be allowed to learn to read and had access to public libraries. Coupled with not the best childhood I knew when I was 18 that I would join the industry to emancipate myself and I’ve never looked back. In 2012 I was asked to start filming porn, as I was also trying to make my break as a sexologist in media at that time I thought why not, it was a risky move but it certainly paid off. 

JJ: Since you became part of the industry you've been a shining example of just what an amazing industry it is. 

What's the best thing about the industry?

Madison: The best thing about the porn industry is the platform it’s given me. I’m one of those crazy people who believe she can change the world, I want to see the world better for sex workers and women and anyone who’s experienced pain. Somehow becoming a Pornstar has given me the opportunity to speak out and touch people’s lives in more ways than just porn. I’m so humbled by the fan mail that I receive from people who have taken comfort or inspiration from me. It’s truly what drives me to be better and what keeps me going when I want to give it all up.

JJ: There is no better feeling than knowing your work gives you the opportunity to help others in some way. You must feel amazing getting to help others. 

 

What's the worst thing about the industry?

Madison: The lack of workplace rights we have. In 2014 I stood up to an employee of a porn company who sexually harassed me. This resulted in him sabotaging my career and convincing the company to breach a significant contract with me. Unfortunately despite decriminalisation and the existence of red umbrella organisations and the sex party, I received no help. I couldn’t pursue legal action as I have no anti-discrimination rights and basically the organisations in the industry all washed their hands of it, telling me it was my fault for expecting that a signed contract in the porn industry would be honoured in the first place. To date my contract was never honoured. But the porn company in question did finally fire the employee who harassed me and issued a public statement in my support in 2015, which I’m grateful for. 

It was this experience, which saw me become an intra-industry activist. I don’t want to see what happened to me happen to anyone else, so I speak up against the inherent exploitation within the industry and about the lack of support that the organisations that receive government funding on our behalf give. I want to see the sex industry respected as a professional industry and see that all porn performers and sex workers have equal access to safety and workplace rights.

JJ: I think it takes people like you to stand up and speak for people. That is what will make the industry start to change. You'll leave a lasting impression by being the person you are.

 What's the funniest thing to happen whilst working?

Madison: When I first entered porn there weren’t many actresses that could squirt, so very early on I was asked to shoot my first squirting scene. I was so nervous but I knew I needed to try to relax, as I don’t fake my squirting scenes. Well the combination of my nerves and me trying to relax resulted in me farting just before the cameras started rolling, in front of a crew of 12 or so people. I was mortified. But perhaps even funnier was just after that scene when we were shooting the stills for it. I accidentally had a huge orgasm and squirted all over the photographer and her camera. 

JJ: Now that's sounds like it was one hell of an amusing shoot to have been a part of. Having fun on set is important I feel to produce really good scenes. 

 

What are you doing now work wise?

Madison: My focus these days is sex education. I’m predominantly working on my women’s project Raw: Female sexual Pleasure and Sexual self esteem which is an education art exhibition and seminar series at SEXPO right now. But I’m also turning it into a book and a website.

Behind the scenes I’m also continuing my porn literacy work, which is aimed at young people helping to educate them on what porn is and how to have happy and healthy sexual relationships. And I have an industry project, which is aiming to increase the safety and support networks for all sex workers. 

In Porn I’m only accepting scenes which show real female sexual arousal so I’m not shooting as much any more but I have a couple of awesome new pornos in the pipeline. I love that porn exists, but I think its time for porn to stop overly promoting hyper sexualised yet censored female sexuality and the beauty ideal. So I will probably continue to shoot porn for the rest of my life as I want to break the mould that women are only sex objects when they are young and sexually inexperienced and when are bodies are pert.  

My current favourite saying is “Women are sexual beings not objects”. Age, education, motherhood doesn’t detract from our sexuality it enriches it so its time to start embracing that.

I’m also doing a lot of therapy and mentoring of sex workers these days, I want to help everyone live their best life possible.

JJ: I'm not sure I've interviewed anyone in the industry that has done quite so much to improve it personally. You are doing so much as well as trying to educate the viewing public too. It's inspiring and I hope other people follow your lead.  

Where is the best place for people follow you online?

Madison: The best place is my main website www.madisonmissina.com.au it links you to everything that I’m working on and my social media profiles. 

JJ: Guys this is one site you don't want to miss. It's full of everything you could ever want. Make sure you get it set as a favourite now. 

 

What's the best thing about sex?

Madison: The best thing about sex is that it’s universal. We often see sex as a way to polarise humans we have the sluts versus the prudes, we still have homophobia. But underneath it all we are all the same, we are all sexual I argue that even those that identify as asexual meaning that they don’t experience sexual attraction with others are still sexual. We express our sexuality everyday in our clothes, to how we want and whom we want to have relationships with. We strive for connection and belonging and acceptance. So sex however we have it makes us human, its beautiful.

 What are your biggest turn ons?

Madison: Brains. Nothing seduces me more than intelligent conversation. I love exploring people’s minds and their world views, finding out what really turns others on, especially if they feel shame about it. There is this beautiful moment when you accept something about someone else that they feel shame for. That makes me feel alive. 

JJ: You have such an amazing view of sex and the intricacies of it. You are someone who can truly appreciate the connection at a deeper level and not just based on the superficial connection. It's a refreshing and honest approach to living. 


Now after that moment of deepness the true important question is, what's your favourite movie?

Madison: One of my favourites right now is The Dress Maker. It's brilliant. I love strong female characters and that movie is badass. But my all time favourite is The Rocky Horror Picture I know every line. 

JJ: I've heard they are remaking the Rocky Horror Picture Show. I'm not sure how to feel about that if I'm honest. 

 

What’s your favourite holiday destination?

Madison: Anywhere country. Heaven to me is clean air, nature and animals. I’m the happiest when I’m covered in mud and running around with my dogs.

JJ: I'm sure someone actually created you from the perfect woman handbook. I think many people are reading this and admiring your personality more than your looks right now. 

Tell me one thing about yourself that people would never know by looking at you?

Madison: Everyone sees how open and friendly I am at SEXPO or public events and they think I’m extroverted. The truth is I’m incredibly timid and shy. I have social anxiety and when I get stressed my agoraphobia plays up. This means that there’s literally been months where I’ve not left my house. But I also love people so I work hard on myself at SEXPO, but it takes a personal toll. If you watch my body over every Sexpo you see that I drop weight dramatically over the 4-day event. Working hard to control my anxiety means that whilst the public see me as vibrant and outgoing, behind the scenes I’m suffering panic attacks and vomiting. So in four days I can drop massive weight and dress sizes. But I keep going back for more. We all have our little nuances and social anxiety is mine but I wont let it stop me. 

 JJ: That's takes a lot of personal strength and determination to go through that for the industry you love. I hope people read this and can appreciate that it's not a selfish industry and people do make so many sacrifices. 

What's been your biggest achievement in life or work?

 

Madison3 The most obvious is holding the title of Pornstar of the Year for 3 years in a row, that’s never been done before in Australian history so that was awesome. But what I’m most proud of is the protest that I did in 2014 involving condoms in porn. When I first started porn, most producers wouldn’t allow performers to use condoms in porn so after I won my first award I decided to do something about it. I founded #safesexissexy, created BLONDE which a full safer sex Porno and made a public pledge that I would never film a porno without condom use again. I’ve kept my promise and I love that now, I see most Australian porn production companies producing scenes that show condom use. 

JJ: That's a strong stand to take and it's something you should be very proud of standing up for what you believe in it. It's very admirable. 

JJ: What's the most challenging thing you've overcome?

Madison: Bullying. In 2014 I first became a target due to my #safesexissexy campaign it was also the year that I went public with my fight against sexual harassment and my contract breach. I always knew that wanting to change an industry would see me attract negativity, but I never predicted just how bad it would get. Since 2014 at the hands of some members of the adult industry I’ve been deported, had my legal name, address and personal phone number published, I’ve been attacked, had my life threatened, the locks on my front door removed, the doors to my apartment building smashed in, and a sex worker dobbed me into my real estate agent for being a sex worker. That’s in addition to sheer amount of cyber bullying that I’ve had to endure.

Living through that amount of violence has seen me make several attempts to end my own life, but the biggest thing I came to release now that I’ve moved to safety. Is that the bullying for some time made me stop working towards my purpose. So these days I see the bullies and the bullying for what it is, evidence that I need to keep working. So rather than hurting me it now fuels me. I may never be able to change society when it comes to bullying but I will show that people can survive it even flourish from it. 

JJ: You have weathered a storm and come through it a more resilient and well rounded person because of all of that. It's crazy that people would still act like that towards anyone because of their choice of job or beliefs. It is sickening and I'm glad you got through it.

 

 

What's the best thing a fan has ever done?

Madison: Oh there are so many things. But the most recent example was when a fan of mine reached out to me because a sex worker he knows had hit a rough patch and he wanted to help her. I love it most when people really care for one another and want to enrich each other’s lives. I cant wait to meet that special fan of mine at Melbourne SEXPO I like to reward peoples kindness so I have something special for him!

But honestly I have just some of the most beautiful fans around. I’m one lucky woman.

JJ: I hope that fan reads this and realises just what he has in store at SEXPO. I wish I could be there to see his face haha.  

What's one bit of advice for anyone wanting to get into the adult industry?

Madison: The sex industry is amazing as you can literally make it anything you want. But my advice is to trust yourself. So often I see new workers say well I felt that was a bit dodgy but I maybe that’s just the industry. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Theres good and bad in all parts of the industry so follow your gut. And if you need help ask for it. Even if you get turned away, keep searching. There are senior sex workers, pornstars who are willing to help you, find them. I’m always happy to help or give advice to workers. 

 JJ: That's great advice and something I hope people will read and take advantage of because it's important to be safe and have some sort of guidance.

 

What do you think you'll do if you leave the industry?

Madison: The industry is my home. It’s my family. I will be in it in someway the rest of my life. No matter how hard it gets some time in dealing with the industry bullying and I’ve been open that I have experienced rape and violence within the industry, but throughout all of that I’ve never contemplated leaving. I’m all in and a lifer. The sex industry isn’t for everyone but boy it’s for me. That’s what’s great about it there’s so many opportunities in it, my career just keeps expanding. So sorry Haters you wont be able to get rid of me..

JJ: I'm glad you'll always be around because Infele the industry is a far better place because I you and will continue to improve because of the work you're doing at all levels. 

JJ: Finally, what's the weirdest rumour you've heard about yourself?

Madison: Gosh theres been so many, and honestly even I can’t keep up with them. Honestly I just laugh these days. But it seems that the biggest culprits live to hate, so whilst they love targeting me, they also target others. I think it’s sad to live in a world where they see so many as their enemy. If they just spent the time it takes to attack me to work on their own businesses they would achieve so much more. I sometimes find myself wanting to say to them look at what you’ve achieved all ready, get your focus back on to yourself and make yourself great. But I know if I said that to them they see that as patronising, so I hold back. But I guess that’s just professional jealousy for you, if you're insecure you might think that you need to bring someone else down to get ahead. I have a lot of sympathy for them.

But one that they are currently discussing on twitter right now, is that I’m a sex work abolitionist – meaning I’m anti sex work and want to abolish the industry. Its come up as I’m friends with Melinda Tankard Reist who is an Anti and a sex educator for young people, I’m also passionate about protecting children from the impacts of porn. As I’m a sexologist and a sex educator as well as a Pornstar, Melinda is both my opponent in sex work policy debates and my peer. I think it’s hard for some to grasp that two people can be complete opposites and still respect each other. Sure there’s lots of things that Melinda believes in that I don’t agree with. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t respect her womanhood or her right to her opinions. I’m pretty passionate about strong female voices, so I champion women who stand with conviction; I think that we can debate controversial topics without reducing ourselves to throwing personal or religious insults. 

JJ: Thank you so much for being with me today. This is possibly my favourite interview I've done. You've made me laugh and opened my eyes and knowing someone is working hard to improve the industry for everyone is a comforting thing. I look forward to catching up soon and getting to know you even more. 

 

Monday 24 October 2016

Tiffany Snow

Today I'm interviewing one of the most popular escorts in the U.K.  She knows how to please, his to tease and appears to be very excited to be here today letting you all find out a bit more about her. Welcome the sexy Tiffany Snow. 
 
JJ: Welcome to Inside the Porn. It's a pleasure to have you here today. 

What got you into the adult industry?  

Tiffany: Swinging, I realised I was bisexual at a young age but I was 18 and still had never been with a woman before so after hearing about a swingers club near me I decided to go, it was so much fun I went back again and I was meeting headmasters, Police Officers, Lawyers and other intelligent, friendly, professional couples and guys. Even though I only played with women it was pretty obvious how popular I was from the looks I got from guys and it occurred to me that I could probably make money doing this as swinging is actually quite expensive, travel, drinks, club entry, sexy outfits. I had a full time more “normal” job already and had been working since 16. I thought I would get about 10 guys want to see me and then they would get bored and move on. I had no idea how many guys love to see girls for no strings sex fun but I soon found out and it went from there.

JJ: Swinging seems to be a way quite a few people got into the industry. It's a good way to get a feel for things. 
 
What's the best thing about the industry?  

Tiffany: The obvious answer is the money but for me it's actually the freedom to work when I want, however much I want and see who I want. People think escorts are desperate and will see anyone, anytime for money but reality is the demand is so high the we turn down far more requests to meet then we actually do. Those with no clue about sex work say it’s exploitative for women but its actually the most empowering profession for women as you don’t need a man to get into this work, you don’t need to compete with men in the work place and the financial independence it brings means you are not reliant on a man so when you do date a guy its genuinely because you like him and not because he has a nice car or money like so many women do and then turn their noses up at “sex for money” without seeing the irony. 

JJ: That's a great point. I think some of the nicest people are in the industry and they see guys for the person they are and not always just their looks or their money. 

What's the worst thing about the industry?  

Tiffany: The media portray so much negativity about this industry but its actually a really fun job to do and the people you meet both guys and other girls who do this are some of the nicest people I have ever met. The worst thing is those handling the constant demand to see me which is 24/7 and 365 days a year. I get about 30 to 50 requests to meet on Christmas Day. It would be fine if guys understood this but many guys can be funny with you if you are not able to see them and then of course there are the sex talkers who don’t realise you’ve already had about 5000 other guys try the exact same thing to get free sex talk out of me and its so obvious they have no intention of seeing me. I just politely end the call and block them, it’s always best to be polite to everyone, even abusive callers.

JJ: That just shows how professional you are and I like the fact that is the way you handle things. You're right about the number of nice people in the industry. More people should realise that the adult industry isn't just full of stuck up people. 
 
What's the funniest thing to happen whilst working? 

Tiffany: Myself and other girls have so many stories about funny incidents that I always joke I should write a book about escorts funniest moments though many are so bizarre that I don’t think many people outside of this industry would believe them. We had a young, tall, well hung good looking guy who had been pestering me for ages on twitter about what an amazing stud he was and how he wanted to come fuck me and my friend on webcam and show us the time of our lives. He really did give the big one about how amazing he was at sex. He was good looking and we do use guys for camming sometimes, they get free sex with two hot girls and we get to do a great show and keep the credits. Anyway he turns up and he’s so young, mayby 18 or 19  but tall, big dick and good looking. Me and Lola get on cam in our sexy underwear and start doing lesbian stuff and invite him to join us which he does but he couldn’t get hard. No matter what we did this “Super Stud” could not even get slighty hard. You could see the panic is his eyes. I gave him a Viagra and took him downstairs on my own, off camera to play with him to help him get hard in case it was the being on cam bit but nothing was happening. Lola had a go whilst I went back and cammed but still nothing. Lola takes it really personally if a guy can’t get hard as she does the best blowjobs I have ever seen and I’ve seen a lot of girls give them. She bought him back upstairs and just left him standing there limp whilst the guys watching us on cam were telling us how they would come over and fuck us properly if he couldn’t and even doing cam to cam with us so we could see them rock hard and wanking till they came. I think it just made him feel worse. I’ve worked with a few guys and no one talked himself up as much as this guy and no one failed to perform so badly. After 2 hour show was finished he went home making excuses as he left. I was really understanding but Lola could barely hide her contempt. He regrets it so much that he had the chance to have sex with two hot girls but was too overlwhelmed with nerves to do it and has been messaging me regularly asking for a second chance. He even got into swinging so he could practice performing on demand with total strangers but Lola would never have him back. If he’d been more modest I think we’d have given him a second chance as it can happen to anyone but he was so cocky and confident he was going to rock our world that he just looked a little foolish.

JJ: I hope he's not reading this because he will be feeling extremely silly. 

What are you doing now work wise?  

Tiffany: I train full time to compete in female fitness competitions so that takes up most of my time and then I just do meets around that to suit my day. Its great having that freedom to work when it suits me. I do a lot of work with other girls and help them out a lot so you can see me do tours to big cities like London, Birmingham and various airports but mostly work from home as it’s just so convenient. 
 
JJ: Where can people find you online? 

Tiffany: I have a profile on Adultwork at refer.adultwork.com/?R=1318410&T=1… with all my video’s, photos, blogs, details, contact phone number and rates and its free to view without having to join up so guys can arrange to meet from the information on that site. I'm also on Twitter @tiffanysnowxxx

JJ: Guys go and find this amazing woman. She will certainly leave you wanting more. 
 
What's the best thing about sex? 

Tiffany: There are so many things that are great with sex and sometimes the least likely of guys end up giving me such amazing orgasms, it really is about technique and not looks. I think the best thing though is that sex one of those things that everyone enjoys no matter who they are. 90% of the guys who see me are the same guys most people would say “He’d never pay for sex”. I see people of all backgrounds, including a lot of attractive, young professional couples looking to try a threesome experience with a genuine bisexual girl. I am one of the few girls who enjoys sex with women so much I don’t charge any extra to bring your partner with you.

JJ: I think that it's good to see you love women so much that you don't charge extra for couples. That's a true sign of how much you like it. 
 
What really turns you on? 

Tiffany: Ironically I love big boobs, I don’t have or want them for myself, I like my own perky ones but I just love playing with other girls big boobs. There’s so many girls I talk to about work or actually do threesome meets with and they probably don’t realise that I am enjoying the sex with them as much as the guy is. I’ve never wanted to date a girl or even be affectionate with one but when it comes to hot, filthy, horny, naughty girl on girl sex I love it.

JJ: There isn't anyone reading this who didn't just get hot under the collar. I'm struggling now asking the rest of the questions. 

The important question now, what is your favourite film? 

Tiffany: I love so many films, I think the 2002 film “The Secretary” had a huge impact on me as it made me realise that I love submissive roleplay and submissive sex. I can do domination really well but I love total submission, I’d love to do it with a girl. Its really hard to find people who genuinely understand it and are into it as much as I am as it’s not something you can fake as unless you understand the role of a dominant and what it is the submissive wants you’ll just go through the motions and get bored of it as its about teasing and anticipation and turning someone on psychologically rather than just doing something physical to them. That film where he dominated his secretary and she willingly became his submissive was a real eye opener to the young teenage girl that I was.

JJ: I have I to say I'm a big fan of that film too. It appeals to my Dominant side in a big way.  

What's your favourite holiday destination? 

Tiffany: I love nudist beaches and hate tan lines. Holidays for me have to be sunny, hot, relaxing with great food so I may go just a few hours flight away or 16 hours flight away. I don’t go for luxury either, the hotel is just somewhere to sleep so I find a modest place to stay and then spend my money on exploring and eating out at restaurants to see the most of where I am. I couldn’t imagine going all-inclusive and not leave the hotel.  

JJ: I'm not surprised you're adventurous at heart. It's great to see you make the most of the places you visit. I bet going on holiday with you would be a lot of fun. 
 
Tell me one thing about yourself that people would never know by looking at you? 

Tiffany: I can squat 100 kilos and lift more weight than most average guys in the gym. I am also a really down to earth and friendly person who just wants to enjoy life, I am not motivated by material things but understand you need money just to get by in life. I would rather lose money than lose a friend and am very loyal to the friends I do have. I think most guys who meet me are always surprised how friendly and easy to talk to I am, when guys cancel meets due to nerves it always really surprises me that anyone could be nervous about meeting me.

JJ: I have to say you've been so lovely and down to earth. I can imagine you're an amazing friend to have. 

What's been your biggest achievement in life or work? 

Tiffany: I got into the adult industry 4 years ago with no previous experience, no connections and no one to guide me or give me advice. I tried writing to other girls asking for any advice and tips but most just ignored my emails and some wrote back that I was too inexperienced for them to want to do anything with me work wise. Now 4 years later I have a profile that has been within the top 10 most popular profiles on Adultwork every day for almost 3 years, only one other profile has been able to be as consistently popular  as that and they have been on Adultwork twice as long do adult modelling and films so are much more well-known than me. I have built up a large network of really good friends in this industry many of whom want to work with me even though they have achieved a lot of success in the adult entertainment industry and by rights who much more celebrity status than me in the world of sex. They have become genuine friends to me too and not just work colleagues which I am really proud of. I feel like I was able to go from a “nobody” as one porn model once called me to being a successful escort with a hugely loyal client and friendship group and feel that I have not had to fuck anyone over to do that which is why I have retained so many friends.

JJ: That is a great achievement. It goes to show what hard work and professionalism can get you. 
 
What's been the most challenging thing you've overcome? 

Tiffany: Learning how to do this job with no guidance at all. I used to watch the “Punter Meet” porn series to learn what I was supposed to be doing lol. Fortunately I love sex and am really friendly and think that comes across in my meets. As no one offered to help me I decided that I would always help anyone who came to me so I was able to build up a really good group of escort and porn star friends who tour with me, come work at my place or even just meet up to socialise together. I feel really lucky to have some really good friends from this industry and I am still offering advice and help to other girls now as well as learning from and benefiting from the experiences of my friends. Not everyone who does this is nice and friendly as some girls see other girls purely as competition but I have found that you can more successful with friends than by competing with others.

What's the best thing a fan has ever done for you? 

Tiffany: I am really bad at accepting gifts from people I am not very materialistic, I once gave a virgin his money back as he was too nervous to do anything, so I feel a little guilty having asked someone to pay to see me and they then give a gift as well as that’s really not necessary. I have been given some really nice things which I do really appreciate and am grateful for. I know many girls really pursue the gifts thing and I can appreciate that guys like to treat women but I just feel pleased they choose to see me so I don’t expect anything. I got a £1500 Sybian Sex machine once which was a bit of a surprise as they are very specialist bits of kit. I do really, really love and appreciate flowers though and after I get them I put them in a nice jar and enjoy them for the few weeks they stay alive and am always genuinely pleased someone thought to get me them.

JJ: Sometimes it's the little things that mean so much. Flowers are always a nice touch I feel. 
 
What's one bit of advice for anyone wanting to get into the adult industry?  

Tiffany: Always be polite and friendly and treat each person you meet well as word does get out about you and guys will usually see several girls but once they find one that they really like they will see them again and again as they’d rather have a meet they know they will really enjoy than take the risk of seeing someone new just for it to be a disappointment. I know a lot of girls who are very methodical about working and purely driven by getting as much money as possible without any care about how they do their meets but that will only work for a short period of time before guys stop seeing you. I would say 50% of everyone I see has seen me before and I can often get other girls work with my regulars on my recommendation which is useful as I work with a few different female friends. Being friendly to other girls will also help you out a lot too as having friends who do this all over the UK can benefit you in so many ways; even if it’s just showing professional courtesy to other girls they’ll appreciate you doing so and be less wary of you and your intentions. The other piece of advice is that girls should never think their rate is a direct reflection of them as a person. Too many girls wont lower their rates out of pride but will instead go days without seeing  anyone where as if they just lowered their rate they could have been busy all day long and earned a lot more. I work with some really expensive girls and some modestly priced girls and often the lower rate girls earn more money over the period of time they are working.

JJ: That's great advice. Some real life advice for people to consider. It's no wonder you so so well. 
 
What do you think you'll do after you leave the industry? 

Tiffany: It’s difficult to say as I love what I do. I know girls that are dying to quit for various reasons but the money keeps pulling them back in as nothing else compares to it. I will say this is one industry where despite what people say you can do it for the rest of your life as many guys who see escorts do so as much for their personality and wanting to spend time with a woman on their level than for amazing sex. Most guys are smart enough to know if they are over 40 and out of shape then that 18 year old hot blonde model isn’t really having an orgasm with them (unless you have amazing oral skills) so they would rather see a woman who they can related to and who will enjoy their company. Many people believe its women who want more than just sex but most women I know are perfectly capable of having  meaningless sex all day long and it not mean a thing where as men tend to want something a little more than looks and will meet will choose to see women that they get on with well. I think I would love to focus more on fetish style meets as that’s a personal passion of mine and explore that scene a lot more. I love sex that doesn’t involve physical sex but mental erotic stimulation. It’s much more of a turn to do complex sexual scenarios that play on the various psychological aspects of sex such as domination, submission, anticipation, subservience, control, humiliation, and all the other various aspects of sexuality that nearly everyone has experience of to a greater or lesser degree but is just not always aware of it like why it is they want to spank a girls bum or have in handcuffs. The beauty of this work is if you only did 1 or 2 meets a week you would still earn slightly above national average earnings and its really not difficult to achieve that regardless of age, shape, type or any other factor, there will always be someone who will want to see you.  If I do ever want to quit though I can just look at any number of courses out there as I have 4 A Levels so can just retrain as something else or go to university and live off doing 1 or 2 meets a month. 

JJ: Well it appears you have a plan in place for when or if you decide to give it up. Someone as driven as you won't struggle after you leave the industry. 
 
Finally, what's the weirdest rumour you've heard about yourself? 

Tiffany: Fortunately I get a lot of nice things said about me by people as guys get in touch saying I was recommended to them, even guys who live hours away. I get a lot weird request from clients, I saved all my messages and there are 3 different people who come to mind for weirdness. The first is a guy who pastes a link to video of him stuffing 9 Cadburys cream eggs up his ass and then some kind of strange idea about how I can make money by uploading his video and selling it to people. The other is a guy who wants to be my live in slave butler who won’t take no for an answer and can’t understand why I wouldn’t be interested. He even said he could provide professional references from a family he worked for. Then there is a guy who since I started doing this 4 years ago just send the same message over and over saying “can you kick me in the balls”. No matter what I reply, whether its to say yes or no or even no reply at all that’s all he writes and has been messaging me with that same message me for 4 years. A lot of guys complain online at the rudeness of some girls who escort but they don’t realise that a girl may have had hundreds of texts and calls from weird guys asking weird random things and it’s possible that whatever they said to her made her think it was another weirdo and so she may have responded rudely. I make it rule to either not reply or to politely decline and then never reply again as being rude to people often makes it worse. I had a friend in tears once as she had paid out all this money to tour London and this guy kept calling her every 30 seconds non-stop blocking all other people trying to call her and this was before iPhones allowed you to block numbers so she couldn’t stop the guy calling at all.  So she got in touch with me on her personal phone asking for help and I talked her though how to set the phone up to divert automatically to another number and then got her to enter the number for a desk Sgt in the police force so every time he rang a policeman would answer. It wasn’t long before he stopped trying to call her and she could get back to work. Calls for time wasters and weirdo’s is the single biggest frustration of girls who do this work. They will happily have sex with guy after guy all day long but when it comes to dealing with calls and texts they hate it.

JJ: Thank you so much for taking the time out to be with me today and for such amazing answers. You've been an absolute delight and I most certainly owe you a drink sometime soon. 

Tuesday 18 October 2016

Kimberlee Rose

Well today I'm lucky enough to interview another of Australia's sexiest women. She is a luxury escort driving guys wild and now she is here to drive you all wild. The very sexy and naughty Kimberlee Rose. 
 
JJ: Welcome to Inside the Porn. It's a pleasure to have you with us. 

What got you into the adult industry?

Kimberlee: One of my friends was at a nude beach where a site was doing a shoot and she told me about it, I had gotten the site owners number and did my first shoot and have been doing it since then.

JJ: Well that's a great visit to the beach... go for a tan and come back with a new career haha. 

What's the best thing about the industry? 

Kimberlee: You meet so many lovely people and it's just fun. 

JJ: What's the worst thing about the industry? 

Kimberlee: It's a competive industry so that makes things harder, it also can be thought of as a negative thing working in porn, people don't understand it. 
 
JJ: What are you doing now work wise?  

Kimberlee: I'm going shoots still for a most of the australian companies . I mainly work as a luxury escort which is great.

JJ: I am sure everyone will enjoy seeing more stuff from you in the near future. 

Where is the best place for people follow you online? 

Kimberlee: My twitter which is @kimberleerose10

JJ: I can definitely recommend that people follow you because you have an amazing twitter and you post great pics. 
 
What's the best thing about sex? 

Kimberlee: It's pleasurable, fun and you can get really expressive. 

JJ: What are your biggest turn ons? 

Kimberlee: Anal! 

JJ: Best one word answer I've had for that question haha. 

What's your favourite movie? 

Kimberlee: All disney cartoons,  but my favourites are the Lion King and Princess and the Frog.

JJ: Classic choices there. I took you for a Disney princess fan. 
 
Whats your favourite holiday destination? 

Kimberlee: I haven't really traveled but any where thats tropical. 

JJ: I can imagine you look amazing in a tropical setting, sun, sea, cocktails haha. 

Tell me one thing about yourself that people would never know by looking at you?

Kimberlee: I'm a crazy reptile lady 

JJ: Haha I hope you mean you have reptile pets and not that your secretly a Lizard. 
 
What's been your biggest achievement in life or work?  

Kimberlee: Im still working on my achievements I have set up my own business as an independent escort and I'm trying to save to purchase a house. 

JJ: Well you have a goal and it appears you're doing well at working towards it. It's impressive to see the drive you have. 

What's the most challenging thing you've overcome? 

Kimberlee: I think personal insecurities,  there are so many beautiful women in this industry I have had to learn to love myself and my body image.

JJ: That's a big thing to get over and it's great you've found that love for yourself. 
 What's the best thing a fan has ever done?
 


Kimberlee: I think its really lovely when they compliment you. Gifts are  great as well haha. 

JJ: What's one bit of advice for anyone wanting to get into the adult industry? 

Kimberlee: I think you need to be confident in yourself and love what you do . 

JJ: I think you should definitely love what you do if you are lucky enough to have a career that you can love. 
 
What do you think you'll do if you leave the industry? 

Kimberlee: Im not sure I feel like I will keep escorting for a while though. 

JJ: I just heard guys all over Australia cheering at that answer haha. 

Finally, what's the weirdest rumour you've heard about yourself? 

Kimberlee: I haven't had rumours which is great.

JJ: It's always a good thing when they're isn't any rumours. Means you're treating everybody right. 
Thank you for being with us as I know you're very busy. I look forward to seeing more of you soon. 
 

Thursday 13 October 2016

Ryan Ryder

Today I'm interviewing one of the most well known male pornstars in the industry. I'm sure you're thinking he had the best job in world, well come read about the real Ryan Ryder and see just how it really is. 
 
JJ: Welcome to Inside the Porn, It's an absolute pleasure to have you with us today. 

How did you get into the adult industry? 

Ryan: It was kind of a random situation, where along with my wife Jasmine Jae, who of course is now a massive success in her own right in Porn, got to hear about the industry via a very well known pornstar in the form of Keiran Lee. We were both at a crossroads in already successful previous careers, but we were at a point in our life where we were ready for something new. 

JJ: Well Jasmine has appeared on the blog previously and I'm hoping we get to feature you both together soon. We must of course thank Kieran Lee for leading you and Jasmine into the world of porn. 
 
What's the best thing about the industry?

Ryan: For me the chance to perform in various different projects and to travel all round the world. It's also nice to be in charge of your own rates, who you work with etc instead of clocking in 9 til 5 every day because you get told to, I have never been in that kind of job and don't think I ever could. A lot of the girls I work with are really amazing at their job and a pleasure to work with and be on set with it's great when you can make a fantastic scene with a girl where you both have the same end game in mind and have some chemistry on set and perform a brilliant porn scene. I also love acting as a trained actor so feature let me perform so many cool parts, more so than in my "vanilla" acting career! 

JJ: It sounds like you have found your true calling, being able to do porn but also dabble in mainstream acting is definitely a bonus. Gives you the chance to explore your talents. 
 
What's the worst thing about the industry? 

Ryan: I was fortunate to have help at the ground floor from people like Keiran Lee and the U.K. Director DiSanto who both gave me so much help and work and advice when frankly I didn't know what the hell I was doing! As a result both myself and Jasmine over the years have followed that lead by trying to help new talent coming through but what  you can find in this industry (unfortunately!) is the gossip, negativity and nasty things being said about you from either the people you have helped get work before, people who are jealous of what you have done, or others who frankly have just came in to the industry and we don't even know or have spoken to. This is the nasty side of this business that I would see eradicated I would see a better support network but that will never happen anytime soon without a big change in mentality what with competition for jobs and popularity etc so we always try and distance ourselves from this but believe me it always gets noted and never gets forgotten!
The other thing I wish I could impress more on certain performers coming through is to stop charging ridiculous, obscenely low rates just to work scenes, they will never make a good living out of it, producers and directors will take it of course because it's good business sense (I would do exactly the same with a producer hat on working a budget!), I am lucky to be able to work regularly for a respectable rate but I have to say this new generation is really harming the professional talent pool as a whole, this is a damn hard profession believe me so both girls AND guys deserve to be paid accordingly if they are doing a good job, (there is no Boy/Girl scenes without the boys). Unfortunately there are those who can't manage or market themselves properly and others who are basically fan boys and think with their dicks and just want to fuck these girls. Sad but true. 

JJ: I couldn't have said that better myself. 

What's the funniest thing to happen whilst working?

Ryan: I worked with a brand new housewife, really hot girl for Private, she had never done a porn scene before but was really into shooting one but her husband was there also and just sat in the corner of the room watching!, they were a really nice couple to be fair so don't know if it qualifies as funniest but was certainly unique, she seemed to have a good time though! 
 
JJ: What are you doing now work wise? 

Ryan: Producing/directing/performing a new series along with Jasmine that I can't say too much about til its launched  but is for one of the very popular sites so it's just a new concept so Jas and I are on board with it and excited to work this as well as our usual performing for other companies
Also shooting all round Europe and UK so just happy to be busy and working.

JJ: It's no surprise you're so busy and in demand. Your work is first rate. 

Where can people find you online? 

Ryan: You can find me on Twitter @RyanRyderXXX

JJ:  What's the best thing about sex? 

Ryan: On set -hanging out with my favourite people, the cool acting stuff, the great scenes with the top talent and of course the pop shot when you have done your job!

At home - that would be telling
 
JJ: What really turns you on? 

Ryan: Kissing, eye contact, people who are into it, and then the odd left field comment/performance from girls who surprise you in a great way

JJ: The make or break question, what's your favourite film?

Ryan: Big movie fan so too many to mention, love movies, good Netflix series and football.

JJ: I'm very similar. Too many great films exist to name favourites. 

What's you favourite holiday destination?

Ryan: Again too many to name a favourite, New York, Vegas, Mexico, Dubai, Camping up north, to name a few

JJ: Amazing destinations there. I'm still waiting to go to Dubai. 

Tell me one thing about yourself that people would never know by looking at you?

I don't have any toe nails on my big toes, so much football over the years called for their removal! I think of it as evolution. 

JJ: I'm also missing a toenail for the exact same reason. 
 
What's been your biggest achievement in work? 

Ryan: Just working regular for 5 years and getting around the world for so many companies is the biggest achievement as in this business for guys; regular performance and flexibility is key. Also it was nice Winning best parody actor for XBIZ awards in LA 2016, for my role as Peter Pan for Axel Braun.  it's tough for Europeans to get recognised out there and also winning PRP best male performer for the UK awards 2016 was amazing.

JJ: Well I have to say you deserved your awards because you have done an amazing job in everything I've seen.
 
What's the best thing a fan has ever done?

Ryan: Vote for me in awards categories, send me nice comments on my movies, just little nice things every day are much appreciated, anyone likes to be told they are good at their job, some people buy me stuff but I don't expect that I am just glad people enjoy my movies

JJ: What's one bit of advice for anyone wanting to get into the adult industry? 

Ryan: Probably don't lol, that's the honest truth, I would hate to be a young newcomer boy or girl coming into this industry right now you have to be a top performer, motivated and lucky now to "make it big" and with any longevity so it's a huge decision to get into porn, once you are out there you are out there so either come into it for the long term 100 percent or don't do it. 

JJ: I hope people read that if they're considering joining the industry as it's a stark reminder of how things can be.  
 
What do you think you'll do after you leave the industry? 

Ryan: Retire. It's important to save your money and have a plan, I had a good career before porn so I am old enough and smart enough to be as motivated as I can to be the best I can be for the next say 10 years and then start to wind things down

JJ: It's good to see you're planning ahead more people should follow your example. 

What's one question you get asked most of all as a male pornstar?

"You must love your job fucking all these girls man! Best job in the world sign me up!!!" . If only they could see the everyday workings of it haha. I always would invite them to come and go for it. 99.9 percent love the fantasy of it but would fail miserably,  some new guys come in and do well for a few months while it's all exciting then realise you need more than to ride on that to do this job long term. that's not me being big headed or egotistical at all but that is just the reality of our job whenever Interview I try to be honest. it's a tough job for dudes and it's a big ask to do this day in day out when you have camera guys all over you during performing plus producers/directors/talent and companies depending on you to produce or the day is a disaster and a lot of people lose money.

"Would I consider gay porn" lol. (That answer is no by the way) but I love all my fans straight, gay or otherwise for sure!
 
JJ: That's what I thought they'd be asking, it's great that you're honest about things. It's very helpful to people to see the hard work involved. 
 If you weren't in the adult industry what do you think you'd be doing? 
 


Still acting and singing on the UK circuit, I did that for 15 years and had a blast but now I perform with my cock instead of my voice but it's a similar deal for me, 

JJ: I'm not surprised you did singing and liked performing. It's amazing that your need to entertain has led you here. 

20. Is the industry easier or harder for a male performer and why? 

Well it's a big challenge for guys and girls! For guys mainly to keep their cock hard of course aside from everything else, I am never going to say I have a 100 percent record on set after hundreds and hundreds of scenes over 5 years but frankly any guy that says that is a massive lier lol ,what I will say is that I am very proud of my consistency on set over the years for all these companies who hire me and pay me and hopefully most girls and directors would agree with me, 
Girls also have a really tough job also, some people think they just "lube up and fake it till you make it" but they they have pretty girls, solo sets, make up, endless body angles posing to look at their sexy maximum, be awesome with the guys to keep them going, do more of the work in certain positions, have to be "turned on and hot" for camera no matter what time of the month it is and deal with constant dick pics and harrasment on social media! lol. It's a tough job for us all but also a really great job with great moments if you are commited and are lucky enough to be a part of the best parts of this crazy industry

JJ: Fantastic answers Ryan. You've given everyone and insight into what makes you tick. I look forward to catching up soon. 
 

Sunday 2 October 2016

Kendra Lust

I've been hoping for this day for a long time. I'm interviewing possibly one of the biggest names to have ever been in the industry. You've watched her porn, you've seen things she's created, you've dreamt about this woman. Today I interview with iconic, sexy and talented Kendra Lust!! 
 
JJ: Hi Kendra, Welcome to Inside the Porn ... I never thought I'd get to say that. 

How did you get into the adult industry? 

Kendra:  I have always been very sexual and wanted to try doing porn but never had the courage to do so.  My family was having financial trouble so I started webcamming to help and after doing it for a few months I decided to try porn....here we are!

JJ: Well out of hard times has come this amazing career that has exploded beyond all belief. 

What's the best thing about the industry? 

Kendra:  I love being able to express my sexuality and show the world that it is nothing to be ashamed of.

JJ: Sex is something that should be celebrated and not hidden away. Porn should be something people watch and no be ashamed about it. 
 
What's the worst thing about the industry? 

Kendra: The free porn and tube sites have take over and not as many people appreciate the work put into a DVD. Free porn has taken away millions of dollars from the directors, producers as well as the talent.

JJ: Tube sites and free Porn are the absolute worst thing. I believe that porn is a labour of love. Many hours go into making a DVD and a lot of people are involved. That deserves to be paid for and not given away for free. 

What's the funniest thing to happen whilst working? 

Kendra: When a girl slipped on lube and landed in a pile of dildos! Haha 

JJ: Now that sounds like an amazing outtake. I need to seek out that footage immediately haha. 
 
What are you doing now work wise?

Kendra: I have been working on a memebership site for Lust Army Video, my own personal site Kendralust.com and Enticeher.com a libido enhancement product for both men and women.

JJ: You're keeping yourself very busy, which is no surprise as you're so in demand. 
 
Where is the best place for people follow you online? 

Kendra: The best place to follow me online is on Instagram: Thereal1_Kendralust

JJ: Guys this woman has 1.2 million Instagram followers which tells you just how amazing her posts are. 

What's the best thing about sex? 

Kendra: The foreplay before the actual orgasm....wait I take that back...ORGASMING!!
 
JJ: Hahahaha well that's no surprise there. What are your biggest turn ons? 

Kendra:  A man who likes sports, a guy who can make me laugh and wears nice cologne.

JJ: Never in a million years did I think you would describe me hahaha 

The important question now, what's your favourite movie? 

Kendra: I love The Hangover.

JJ: I think that movie was truly amazing. A defining moment in cinema. I think it changed comedy films for the better. Made people up their writing skills. 
 
Whats your favourite holiday destination? 

Kendra: Florida. What is there not to love about Florida. I enjoy it when I'm there. I love the water and how beautiful the beaches are.

JJ: I have to agree I love Florida too. It's been a couple of years since I was last there though unfortunately. 

Tell me one thing about yourself that people would never know by looking at you?

Kendra: I am a Registered Nurse and love to read.

JJ: Well the entire male population just suddenly sensed you said Nurse and suddenly there is testosterone flooding the planet. It doesn't surprise me you're a registered nurse as you have a big heart and strong work ethic. 

What's been your biggest achievement in life or work? 

Kendra: Receiving an AVN award for sure has been the biggest achievement. 

JJ: You deserve every award you win because you're very talented and work hard at what you do. With AVN creeping up on us I'm sure you'll be up for some awards again. 
 
What's the most challenging thing you've had to overcome? 

Kendra: Losing my father 2 years ago was extremely difficult. 

JJ: Losing a parent must be a blow and is the one thing everybody must dread happening. I'm sorry to hear that. 
 
What's the best a fan has ever done for you? 

Kendra: The best thing that a fan did was paint a portrait of me.

JJ: Well they say if you paint you should paint beautiful things and there isn't much more beautiful than you. 

What's one bit of advice you'd give to someone getting into the industry? 

Kendra: My advice to anyone getting in the industry would be to actually enjoy sex because there is nothing worse than working with a person who shows up to work "just for the pay!"  

JJ: I tell everyone that. If you love sex and that thy you're doing it then great. You'll be successful. 
 
What do you think you'll do if you leave the industry? 

Kendra: I am a registered nurse so I will go back to work part time. 

JJ: I definitely need to live closer to you so if I ever need a nurse I can have the most beautiful one around haha. 
 
Finally, What's the weirdest rumour you've heard about yourself? 

Kendra: TMZ said that there was a rumor about me having an affair with a famous wrestler.

JJ: I remember that rumour. I wished it was true so much because it would have been awesome. Although I'll be honest I'm not sure he could handle you. 

Thank you so much for being with me today. It's been an absolute honour and privilege and I look forward to seeing more of your work in the near future.