Today I'm giving you all a treat by interviewing another of Australia's sexiest escorts. She lives to please and you'll be hard pushed to find a more amazing woman. The stunning Anya Sonder.
JJ: Welcome to Inside the Porn. It's a pleasure to have you with us.
How did you get into the industry?
Anya: Well here is a link to my site on how I got into it. https://scarletblue.com.au/escort-diary/anya-sonder/how-did-i-get-here
But in case people want to read it here, I had just finished a long term relationship and was experimenting with my newfound freedom. I met a very passionate man who was into Tantra. He asked if I would like to try a threesome and that he wanted me to meet someone. Then dropped the bombshell that she was an escort. An exclusive tantric practitioner. I was a bit shocked and then became curious. As I read through her website my curiosity was piqued and I agreed. Meeting her shattered every stereotype I had about escorts and the sex industry. She was fully doing what she loved, was passionate, natural, sexy and interesting. I was nervous but we all had a great time. I asked if she would have dinner with me after and I don’t know why but she agreed. She said she was confident I would do well in the industry and became a bit of a mentor to me. Some things are meant to be! I will be forever grateful to both of them for changing my life.
JJ: That's certainly a meeting that changed your life
forever. It's great when people find their true calling.
What's the best thing about the industry?
Anya: I get to meet amazing people. The vast majority of people I come into contact with are genuine, lovely, interesting, thoughtful and open. What surprised me the most is the willingness of other workers to help and support each other. I thought it would be the opposite and I was blown away by the camaraderie of my peers. On a personal level, it has allowed me to become financially independent and I love being able to run my own business.
JJ: What's the worst thing about the industry?
Anya: It can make you feel insecure if you let it. There are amazing photographs and images everywhere you look - Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, advertising sites. Trying to remember that the constant bombarding of beautiful images is not how life actually is can really eat at people. I feel lucky that I became a part of the industry in my thirties at a time when I felt more comfortable in my own skin. If I was in my twenties, it may have been too much.
JJ: It's an industry that can be harsh on people's view on themselves. I think you have a point about being ready as a person to get into the industry.
What's the funniest thing to happen whilst working?
Anya: Very early on, I was messaging back and forth with a potential client. Something he said just clicked and I realised that we had known each other since we were kids. That would have been a very awkward date. Its a bit of a pity because he is a fantastic man - he is a writer - a really interesting character. The poor guy hasn’t figured out who I am and he’s been very sweet not to ask. We just send each other the occasional ‘hi’ and he will sometimes edit something I have written. I then tease him mercilessly. Its a mutually beneficial friendship even if I did miss out on becoming a chapter in his memoir haha.
JJ: That would have certainly have made for a great chapter i'm very sure.
What are you doing now work wise?
Anya: My services tend to be GFE (girlfriend experience) with a naughty twist - I enjoy all bookings but my forte is in extended bookings from dinner dates, to overnight bookings and longer. I still work part time in my regular job so life is a bit of a juggling act. As far as escorting goes, I am Adelaide based and am fortunate to get to travel with clients on occasion. I work from my incall and do outcalls to hotels. In 2017 I plan to start touring interstate more and have a trip to Japan planned - very exciting.
JJ: I hope you can find a chance to come to England. I'll give you the guided tour.
Where is the best place for people follow you online?
Anya: Twitter @AnyaSonder
JJ: What's the best thing about sex?
Anya: I am very lucky - I am extremely orgasmic and have always enjoyed sex. I know sex isn’t all about orgasms but it sure doesn’t hurt! I really enjoy the deep connection and eroticism that comes from getting to know people. For me, sex starts with the mind. That initial foray into what makes someone tick, what their interests are and where they want to explore is a two way street and it is divine.
JJ: I think that is a great way to to look at sex. Nothing is better than having that mental connection first.
What are your biggest turn ons?
Anya: An intelligent mind is a huge turn on for me. Meeting someone who has a passion for something; be it wine tasting, writing, travel, music, art, cars - it doesn’t matter what it is necessarily.
Dinner dates: I get very aroused by the anticipation of most dates but dinner dates are the best. From the moment I hop into the shower and choose what lingerie / clothes I am going to wear, I am excited about the meeting to come. Having to sit through dinner and behave when all you’re really wanting to do is rip someone’s clothes off is a huge turn on. Good things come to those who wait…
A man who knows what he wants - mmmmm. And who is damn well going to enjoy having it.
Gifts: this is funny because I am not very materialistic. It is more about the gesture. That someone has held you in their mind makes you feel very special. It could be a card, something someone has made, a piece of art, a song. If you bring champagne, I am putty in your hands. Lingerie, stockings and boots. Its like being naked but with sexy little layers. Women in lingerie is goddamn hot - but you knew that already.
JJ: Well someone who has a passion for something instantly makes them more intriguing which in turn makes you want them more.
What's your favourite movie?
Anya: Porn wise I love watching two girls and a guy. I also love watching anal sex, which is funny because I don’t do anal sex (like to play but find full penetration a bit daunting). Oh wait, that wasn’t the question haha….I love any Tarantino - that guy is a genius.
JJ: Haha I love how we got sidetracked there. It's never a bad thing. I have to agree with you about Tarantino. Everything he does is brilliant.
Whats your favourite holiday destination?
Anya: I love the hustle and bustle of Asia. I have a fetish for amazing food and i'm really looking forward to Japan.. At the moment, I would have to say the thought of lying on a tropical beach in a bikini, listening to the waves lapping on the white sand, cocktails, fucking the night away in a hut built for two, breakfast and morning sex sounds pretty good. Any takers?
JJ: I think Japan would be an amazing place to visit. It's a crazy country with so much to experience. And when do we get going on holiday?? Haha.
Tell me one thing about yourself that people would never know by looking at you?
Anya: The obvious choice here is that if you saw me out on the street you would never imagine that I am an escort. I get told a lot in my regular job that “I wish I had met you when I was younger” or “You are very caring / lovely” but never in a million years would they imagine that behind closed doors I am a ravenous sex kitten.
JJ: I'm sure they wouldn't imagine you are a ravenous sex kitten but I'm sure they've fantasised about you being one.
What's been your biggest achievement in life or work?
Anya: My biggest achievement in life has been
learning acceptance and to follow your passion. It is so easy to get stuck “on the goat track” (as one of my clients loves to say) and forget what is important in life. I work hard and like to take calculated risks so if something doesn’t work the way I hoped it would, I move on and try again.
JJ: I think taking risks is what makes someone more successful than everyday people. You have to take a chance to excel.
What's the most challenging thing you've overcome?
Anya: During my teens / early twenties I had terrible depression. People don’t believe me when I tell them now but it was serious and I really felt like it would never end. I don’t know what changed for me but I do know that discovering mindfulness and meditation was a huge milestone. Somehow I learned to be happy - no matter what life throws at you, its what you give your energy to that matters. It was awful at the time but now I am glad for it because it has made me appreciate how lucky I am. Life is amazing for me now. May it continue.
JJ: I know a lot about depression and it's a hard thing to fight. I'm happy that you found your happiness and was proactive about finding happiness. You definitely deserve it.
What's the best thing a fan has ever done?
Anya: When I was just starting out and was wondering if I would be successful in my new venture, I had a very quiet, shy client book me. After he left, I hoped he had enjoyed the date but wasn’t sure. He then contacted me and asked if I would see him again the following evening. It was a great compliment and I thought “Yep, I might be ok at this”. He is now a regular.Of course being flown interstate by a lovely gentleman and getting out of the plane to see a Rolls Royce with champagne on ice inside was the best start to a weekend away a girl could ever ask for.
JJ: It seems you have found your true calling. Being flown around and having fancy cars and champagne waiting for you is always a good thing.
What's one bit of advice for anyone wanting to get into the adult industry?
Anya: For private providers: Do lots of research. Think about the clientele you would like to work with and how you will find them. Have professional photos and website. Be organised and always be polite, respectful and the best advice I was given was do not be afraid to say no. People will ask you to do things that you’re uncomfortable with or that you have no experience in. It is ok to say no. Because I had never had any experience with the industry before I started, I also sought lots of advice. I would strongly recommend contacting other workers and local support groups. Many people are happy to help and their experience is invaluable.
JJ: That's great advice. I think that you need to learn from people in the industry. It helps to make you the best you can be and also keeps you safe.
What do you think you'll do if you leave the industry?
Anya: I’m lucky that I have other qualifications but I’ve only just started, I’m not going anywhere.
JJ: I'm sure everyone is happy to hear you won't be going anywhere. I will make sure on my next visit over there I come say hi and buy you a drink.
Finally, what's the weirdest rumour you've heard about yourself?
Anya: Anya Sonder has a bit of a filthy mind…. oh wait I may have just started that one…. and it may be true. I don’t have time to listen to silly rumours - pish!
JJ: Haha Anya you certainly do have a filthy mind and it's truly a wonder to behold. I've got to say this has been a great inteview and I look forward to catching up with you soon.